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Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
I remember when we used to live in Manchester, the worst place for practicing your deen, when it was round about Halloween. Our street was peaceful and quiet, with barely any children that used to live there, so we hardly got any knocks on our door, asking for sweets. But once, however, it was 9 o’clock at night, and we heard a knock on the door. I remember my mum, her confused expression matching ours. Who could it be? She asked me to open the door, and when I did, to my fright, I saw this monster glaring at me with its yellow bloodshot eyes.
I almost laughed at my stupidity when the boy took his mask off, and said the custom “Trick or treat!”. I explained to him that we don’t really celebrate Halloween, as it’s not part of out religion, and he understood instantly, saying, “Yeah, actually, same here.. I don’t even know why I’m celebrating it.”
When he went, I found myself thinking, if you’re not supposed to celebrate something, why do it? The boy was just following some sort of tradition that the western culture have, and relishing it greatly, maybe because of the sweets he thinks he is going to get, or maybe so he doesn’t get left out.
My point is, that you get alot of influence from the western society, and you have to be careful what things are permissable to follow, and which could be outright haram. The boy knew what he was doing was wrong, yet he had no-one to stop him, so he just carried on.
Alhamdulillah, my mum told me strictly what was permissable and what wasn’t, and she forbade me doing any of the haram activities that my non-muslim friends might have been doing. I was angry at her at the time, but as I have grwon up and matured abit, I know what she did was the best for me. She helped me grow up in the best of the environments, not letting me get sucked in too much, and alhamdulillah, it worked.
So people, don’t get too involved with all these celebrations that are wrong, and also, find out why they are wrong, so whenever you find the chance, try to spread the message about why its wrong, and shouldn’t be practiced.
Oh, so we are oppressed now huh? Just because we have decided to protect ourselves from the ravaging desire in men? That’s oppression? Go check the dictionary.
Their women can’t even go out of the house without slapping on tons of makeup that makes them look “pretty”, without making sure they look really attractive by wearing skin tight clothing, drenching themselves in perfume, and being all giggly and super annoying. They have such low esteem of themselves that when they get a small spot that is barely recognisable, they have a “traumatic experience to be with them for the rest of their lives”….. and you’re calling us oppressed?
Every heard of natural beauty people? Ever heard of keeping that natural beauty protected for your one love in life, i.e your husband? It seems not.
Sisters (and brothers?) this world is but a journey. Like a person going on a long journey, and resting in the shade of a tree. That shade is this dunya, just temporary. We shouldn’t let small small things of “Oh, but I won’t look pretty,” “But people will stare at me,” “No-ones going to like me,”…. deter us from our straight path.
We need to keep our haya (modesty) intact and we need to do our best to please Allah
Which is why I have chosen to start wearing the niqab.
Here are some of the styles that i thik suit women the best.
I really like the long ones that come from your head. They really suit tall sisters, making them look graceful and elegant. They also look really nice on other height, the way they drag and are so flowy. These types are great for both summer and winter.. You can wear as many layers as you want underneath it in the winter, since it will never become tight on you, and in the summer, you can just wear a simple t-shirt and trouser, and this will keep you nice and cool by having the air circulate around your body due to its flowyness (is that a word?)
Narrated by ‘Abdullah: Allah has cursed those women who practise tattooing and those who get themselves tattooed, and those who remove their face hairs(1), and those who create a space between their teeth artificially to look beautiful, and women changing the features created by Allah. Why then should I not curse those whom the Prophet has cursed? And that is in Allah’s Book. i.e. His Saying: ‘And what the Apostle gives you take it and what he forbids you abstain (from it).’ (59.7)
(1) It would be permitted for a woman to remove a beard or a moustache that appears on her face. Even though it is facial hair, but since it is to stop women from resembling men, it is permitted. This is the opinion of the majority of scholars, in fact they have said it is recommended, not just permitted. The same will be to bleach this hair instead.
If the eyebrows are linked in between, it would be permissible to remove the excess hair from in between to separate them [i.e. the hair above the nose]. The reason for this is that linked eyebrows are looked upon as a defect, hence it would be permissible to remove it.
Our religion is the most beautiful religion of all. Why are we not embracing it? Why do we ignore the importance of knowing our religion? People these days are too caught up in wordly things that don’t matter now, and definitley won’t matter in the hereafter; like “hmm, which car should I buy Honda or Toyota.. should i buy normal, seven seater or 3 door.. which colour?.. Red looks nice no no, sorry i like the blue one.. well the silver looks rather eyecatching………………..” and on it goes.
Who cares what kind of car you get? Are you doing all of this so you make a nice impression to your neighbours? Infact, forget making a nice impression, you WANT them to know that you are well off – by having a nice car etc.. whatever happened to religion? do we take notice of what we say, that it could be makrooh (disliked act) or maybe even haraam?
People do all kind of things without giving a second thought to what they are doing.. and then come the excuses and the complication of different types of muslims… For example, (life story coming up.. :P)A couple of months or so before, I was sat in arabic class ”learning” arabic, and this guy comes up with a question that is directed to the teacher. (the teacher is from tunisia and he is a muslim)
::: “Sir, is music haraam?“
Now I’m sure we all know the answer to that, and with certainty, we would all say yes. However i was very shocked that and annoyed at the teacher when he blatantly said no, like everyone would agree. I was amazed as were 4 other students (there were only 6 students in the class) and disagreed strongly. From that point onwards, we had an argument that lasted for the rest of the lesson, all 4 students were backing me up, as we were not prepared to let him go and have the last word.
So we argued; boy did we argue! His point was that it is makrooh, so i was like if it is makrooh then why do you do it? And he’s like it’s not haraam so it’s not forbidden, and anyways too many people are dying in muslim countries and we are too caught in having beards and having above the ankle and not listening to music and all of that stuff. WHAT!! I was fuming! I said yes all that matters but we still have to pay attention to small details of our religion! you might think that music and hijaab and beard is small, but infact they aren’t and we have to pay great attention to them, as after all they still are part of the religion! He then came up with this: you are extremists. WHAT!! He said that there is a hadeeth where the Prophet (pbuh) said that it’s better to be in the middle that both extremes. I said, ok, so how come the prophet used to wear above the ankle? How come the prophet had beard, and how come he never listened to music? How many people were dying in his time? How many muslims being killed? Yet didnt he still do all the little little things? Just because major things are happening, doesn’t mean that you have an excuse to listen to music does it? Well.. he had nothing to say to that. The next lesson, I gave him my proof, and he read it and said ‘fairly’ that if I want I could go on the internet and print out proof that music is halal, since different people have different ideas. I went mad!! I was so annoyed that I asked him what muslim he was. When he said ‘Im a moderate Muslim. I want to make Islam better for people‘, I just shut up. What can I say to that? Moderate Muslims are changing the religion to how they like it, which if you think about it is haraam- it’s plain Bid’ah. I gave up trying; I literally shut up talking to him from then on. What was the point? He would never undertsand anyway. I’d done my bit.. well what else can I do?
People think religion is a joke, that it’s just some thing you pay attention to when you have time, or when you can be bothered. Its not like that. Religion is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN GET. IT’S THE ONLY THING THAT WE ARE HERE FOR!! SO START PAYING ATTENTION TO IT!
1. Her Obedience to the Creator:
A practicing Muslim man loves to have a practicing Muslim wife; who knows that the life of this world is nothing but a test from her Lord; giving her an opportunity to come closer and closer to Allah, doing more and more good deeds to please Him Azza wa jal, restricting herself from the desires of her inner self that go against the will of her Creator.
But as for him who feared standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires, and lusts. Verily, Paradise will be his abode. (Surah An- Naaziyaat: 40-41)
2. Her Haya (Modesty/Shyness):
Haya is one of the most significant factors of a woman’s personality. Haya according to a believer’s nature refers to a bad and uneasy feeling accompanied by embarrassment, caused by one’s fear of being exposed or censured for some unworthy or indecent conduct.
Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said: “Haya comes from Eman; Eman leads to Paradise. Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
A Muslim woman feels shy to do anything that would displease her Lord in any aspect. She has haya in her talk, she has haya in her gaze, she has haya in her clothing, she has haya in her walk. Her haya in her talk is that she is not soft in her speech but speaks honorably. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner” (Surah Al-Ahzaab:32)
Her haya in her gaze is that she does not look at what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has prohibited for her to look. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts)… (Verse continues) (Surah An-Nur: 31)
Her haya in her clothing is that she does not reveal to others what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has forbidden for her to reveal. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
…And not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms,) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islâm), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigor, or small children who have no sense of the feminine sex.. (Verse Continues) (Surah An-Nur: 31)
Her haya in her walk is that she walks modestly without attracting others attention towards herself. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
..And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allâh to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (Surah An-Nur: 31)
Abu Usayd al-Ansari narrated that he heard Allah’s Messenger Sallallahu alaihiwasallam say to the women on his way out of the mosque when he saw men and women mixing together on their way home: ‘Give way (i.e., walk to the sides) as it is not appropriate for you to walk in the middle of the road.’ Thereafter, women would walk so close to the wall that their dresses would get caught on it. (Narrated by Abu Dawood in “Kitab al-Adab min Sunanihi, Chapter: Mashyu an-Nisa Ma’ ar-Rijal fi at-Tariq)
A woman who has the knowledge of Allah’s commandment to preserve her modesty, submitting herself to the will of her creator, even after having the desire to be praised for her beauty, is without doubt beloved to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and as well as to all good believing men.
3. Her Beauty:
Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala made women beautiful in the sight of men. It’s just that some human beings are more attracted towards some than others.
Aishah RadhiyAllahu anha said: “I heard the Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam saying: ‘Souls are like conscripted soldiers; those whom they recognize, they get along with, and those whom they do not recognize, they will not get along with.’” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
Al-Qurtubi said: “Although they are all souls, they differ in different ways, so a person will feel an affinity with souls of one kind, and will get along with them because of the special quality that they have in common. So we notice that people of all types will get along with those with whom they share an affinity, and will keep away from those who are of other types. [This is like the old saying goes, “Birds of a feather flock together”] For a believing man, a Muslim woman’s beauty is not just how her nose looks or how big her eyes are, but her modesty, purity of heart, and innocence make her look beautiful as well. Also Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala makes people whom He loves, pleasing to others.
“When Allah loves someone he calls to Jibreel Alaihissalaam saying, ‘O Jibreel, I love such and such a person, so love him.’ Then Jibreel will call to the (angels) of the heavens, ‘Allah loves such and such a person so love him.’ And the angels will love [that person]. And then Allah will place the pleasure in the hearts of the people towards this person.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
4. Her Intellect/playfulness:
Intellect and playfulness are two qualities of women highly liked by men. Every man likes to have an intelligent wife who can advise and support him in day to day matters. Khadija bint Khuwaylid RadhiyAllahu anha was one of the most beloved wives of Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). She supported Allah’s messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) at the very beginning of his Prophethood when Jibreel alaihissalaam brought the first revelation to him. Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) always admired her and remembered her even long after her death. A playful wife is a joy and pleasure to a man’s heart. Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam recommended Jabir bin ‘Abdullah to marry a virgin so that the two could play with each other and amuse each other. Narrated Jabir bin ‘Abdullah: “My father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron.
Allah’s Apostle said to me, “O Jabir! Have you married?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “A virgin or a matron?” I replied, “A matron.” he said, “Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you.” (Hadith continued) (Sahih Al- Bukhari)
5. Her Truthfulness:
Being truthful and honest is an essential quality of a believer. ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ood RadhiyAllahu anh said:
The Messenger of Allah Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said: “I urge you to be truthful, for truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man will continue to be truthful and seek to speak the truth until he is recorded with Allah as speaker of truth (Siddeeq). And beware of lying, for lying leads to immorality and immorality leads to Hell; a man will continue to tell lies until he is recorded with Allah as a liar.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
A person who is known to lie repeatedly loses his trust. And if that happens in case of a marital relationship the whole relationship falls apart. A woman who is known to be a “Siddeeqah” certainly has a higher status in a Muslim man’s heart.
6. Her Obedience:
Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala made man protector and maintainer of the woman and enjoined upon her to obey him in all the matters that do not go against Quran and Sunnah. Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” (Surah An-Nisa’: 34)
The Messenger of Allah Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said,
“The best women is she who when you look at her, she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you are absent, she protects her honor and your property.” (At-Tabarani, Ibn Majah)
7. Her Patience:
Patience is a characteristic that can never be praised enough. A woman who remains patient at the times of hardship and relies on the help and mercy of Allah is without a doubt a beloved servant of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And Allah loves As-Saabiroon (the patient)” (Surah Aal Imran: 146)
8. Her Cooking:
Delicious food is without a doubt weakness of men. It’s an old saying that “The Way to a Man’s Heart is through his Stomach”. We also know that one of Prophet’s (Sallallahu alaihiwasallam) wives used to cook food that he liked a lot and due to that Aishah radhiyAllahu anha would get jealous, because she didn’t know how to cook that.
9. Her Contentment with Rizq:
No man likes to have a woman who is always complaining about how less her husband earns or how rich her other friends are. A good Muslimah is the one who thank Allah for what He has blessed her with and she is thankful to her husband for what he provides her with. Abu Hurairah RadhiyAllahu anh reported:
The Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said, “Richness is not the abundance of wealth, rather it is self-sufficiency.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
10. Good Manners:
A woman of good manners is a blessing from Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. When she speaks, she speaks honorably, why she deals with others she deals with them kindly. She is polite with elders, loving to children, and good to her fellow folks. It is related by ‘Abdullah bin Amr that the Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said:
“The best of you are those who possess the best of manners.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
‘Abdullah reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: It is obligatory for you to tell the truth, for truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to Paradise, and the man who continues to speak the truth and endeavours to tell the truth is eventually recorded as truthful with Allah, and beware of telling of a lie for telling of a lie leads to obscenity and obscenity leads to Hell-Fire, and the person who keeps telling lies and endeavours to tell a lie is recorded as a liar with Allah. (S.Muslim 32:6309)