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Controlling Emotions


Salams everyone.

So it’s Ramadhan, and every one is fasting and trying to do as many good deeds as possible.

But what about Anger? Jealousy? Hate?

They are a few of the hardest emotions to control, in Ramadhan and not. Infact, although people might say that it’s easier to abstain from these emotions in Ramadhan, however I think it’s infact the opposite because of the lack of food, and the short temper.

I find it quite hard personally, because I am myself a very short tempered person, and cant stand it when something isn’t fair. But then again, life isn’t fair as I get told time and time again.

With no food, water and having to cook, dying inside as you see the butter melting in the pan, and the onions frying till they’re brown and crisp.

It’s hard. But we have to keep in mind the reason why we have to keep away from these things.

Think about the dire consequences that might occur if you say something you dont mean when your brain is masked with anger.

Imagine you say to someone, “I hate you.” And you both go to sleep. You wake up but the other person doesnt. They died. Without forgiving you.

On Yawmul-Qiyamah, you will have to ask that person forgiveness, and they would have to forgive you, otherwise you might not enter Jannah. Keep in mind that this is the scariest day in the persons life, and right now they hate every one becuase of the torment they might be going through. Are they likley to forgive you, a person who’s last words echoed in their head as they passed away, words that should not be played around with?

Think about it. You dont want to do or say something bad and unjust to anybody, or you dont want to show you temper, because sisters and brothers, we dont know when we are going to die, and what state we are going to die in.

And it being Ramadhan, we want to earn reward as much as possible, and not even go near the bad. So keep away from such useless emotions, and ask for forgiveness, from Allah, and you ummah.

Walaikumssalam

 

 

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Me, Myself, and I.


Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

I went to the summer conference in Green Lane Masjid on Friday, Sat and Sun, and it was excellent. The people delivering the lectures were easy to listen to and enthusiastic about every topic they were given to do.

One of the speakers was Sheick Sajid Ahmed Umar, who was born in Leicster, brought up in Zimbabwe and educated in Saudi. MashaAllah, just by that, I was inxlined to listen to him. He said that he was given the title of a topic named: “Me, Myself, and I.” and he thought what talk he could give about that topic. He said that obviously, he thought of the obvious reaction that most people would give, and talk baout selfishness and vanity, and the likes, but he said it was too common, and every one has heard this time and time again.

He decided to do the talk about how will be alone.

We will die alone.

We will be buried alone.

We will be questioned alone.

We will be punished in the grave alone.

We will recieve the book alone.

We will be accountable for Our Own sins.

We will confront Allah alone.

We will flee from our brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, and friends.

We will be alone.

And just those couple of sentences that he started the lecture off with got me thinking. That is so true. And yet how much time do we spend with our friends, and families, enjoying their company and hating to be alone. Do we ever think that maybe its beneficial for us to sit alone sometimes, and ponder what we have done for the day. Do we ever reflect on our day, see if we did all the things that are pleasing to Allah

How do we know that when we sleep we will wake up the next morning?

How do we know the head that haid down might not get up again?

How do we know that when we breath in, we might not be able to breath out again?

How do we know the eyes that have closed will open again?

We don’t. So we should ponder and reflect on all we did on that day, and if we did anything wrong, aske for forgiveness. Say Astaghfirullah atleast 50 times, and mean it.

Brothers and Sisters, we need to wisen up, and know that we wont be in this world forever. We need to repent, and start doing the things you said you would do five years ago. Start worshipping Allah. Command the good and forbid the bad.

Wasalam.

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Remember death while praying


The Prophet said:

“Remember death in your prayer, for the man who remembers death during his prayer is bound to pray properly, and pray the prayer of a man who does not think he will pray any other prayer.”1

The Prophet  also advised Abu Ayyoob :

“When you stand up to pray, pray as a farewell prayer.”2

Meaning that the prayer of one who thinks that he will not pray another prayer i.e., the person praying will no doubt die, and there is some prayer that will be his last prayer, so let him have khushoo (concentration) in the prayer that he is doing, for he does not know whether or not his will be his last prayer.

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1 Silsilat alhadeeth as-Saheehah by Shaykh al-Albani, hadith number 1421. It is reported from as-Suyooti that al-Hafidh ibn Hajarclassed this hadith as hasan.

2 Ahmad, 5/412; Saheeh al-Jami, hadith number 742

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From the book “33 ways of developing Khushoo”  By Muhammd Salih Al-Munajjid.

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Oppressed? I think not.


Oh, so we are oppressed now huh? Just because we have decided to protect ourselves from the ravaging desire in men? That’s oppression? Go check the dictionary.

Their women can’t even go out of the house without slapping on tons of makeup that makes them look “pretty”, without making sure they look really attractive by wearing skin tight clothing, drenching themselves in perfume, and being all giggly and super annoying. They have such low esteem of themselves that when they get a small spot that is barely recognisable, they have a “traumatic experience to be with them for the rest of their lives”….. and you’re calling us oppressed?

Every heard of natural beauty people? Ever heard of keeping that natural beauty protected for your one love in life, i.e your husband? It seems not.

Sisters (and brothers?) this world is but a journey. Like a person going on a long journey, and resting in the shade of a tree. That shade is this dunya, just temporary. We shouldn’t let small small things of  “Oh, but I won’t look pretty,” “But people will stare at me,” “No-ones going to like me,”…. deter us from our straight path.

We need to keep our haya (modesty)  intact and we need to do our best to please Allah

Which is why I have chosen to start wearing the niqab.

Here are some of the styles that i thik suit women the best.

I really like the long ones that come from your head. They really suit tall sisters, making them look graceful and elegant. They also look really nice on other height, the way they drag and are so flowy. These types are great for both summer and winter.. You can wear as many layers as you want underneath it in the winter, since it will never become tight on you, and in the summer, you can just wear a simple t-shirt and trouser, and this will keep you nice and cool by having the air circulate around your body due to its flowyness (is that a word?)

Assalamualaikum.

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Every soul shall taste death…


[ 29:57 ]

كُلُّ نَفْسٍ ذَائِقَةُ الْمَوْتِ ثُمَّ إِلَيْنَا تُرْجَعُونَ

English Dr. Mohsin Khan: Everyone shall taste the death. Then unto Us you shall be returned.

وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ لَنُبَوِّئَنَّهُم مِّنَ الْجَنَّةِ غُرَفًا تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا نِعْمَ أَجْرُ الْعَامِلِينَ

English Dr. Mohsin Khan: And those who believe (in the Oneness of Allâh Islâmic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, to them We shall surely give lofty dwellings in Paradise, underneath which rivers flow, to live therein forever. Excellent is the reward of the workers.

الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَلَى رَبِّهِمْ يَتَوَكَّلُونَ

English Dr. Mohsin Khan: Those who are patient, and put their trust (only) in their Lord (Allâh).

وَكَأَيِّن مِن دَابَّةٍ لَا تَحْمِلُ رِزْقَهَا اللَّهُ يَرْزُقُهَا وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ

English Dr. Mohsin Khan: And so many a moving (living) creature carries not its own provision! Allâh provides for it and for you. And He is the All-Hearer, the All¬Knower.

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Fascinating story..


There was a rich merchant who had four (4) wives.

He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He’s very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men.

He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant’s confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times.

Now, the merchant’s 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, “Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I’ll be alone. How lonely I’ll be!” Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

No way!” replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word.

The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant’s heart.

The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, “I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No!” replied the 3rd wife. “Life is so good over here! I’m going to remarry when you die!” The merchant’s heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, “I always turned to you for help and you’ve always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?” “I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!” replied the 2nd wife. “At the very most, I can only send you to your grave.” The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated.

Then a voice called out: “I’ll leave with you. I’ll follow you no matter where you go.” The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition.

Greatly grieved, the merchant said, “I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!”

Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it’ll leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we’re alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth and sensual pleasure.

Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it’s a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we’re on our deathbed to lament.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Anecdote about Three Friends

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