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Oppressed? I think not.


Oh, so we are oppressed now huh? Just because we have decided to protect ourselves from the ravaging desire in men? That’s oppression? Go check the dictionary.

Their women can’t even go out of the house without slapping on tons of makeup that makes them look “pretty”, without making sure they look really attractive by wearing skin tight clothing, drenching themselves in perfume, and being all giggly and super annoying. They have such low esteem of themselves that when they get a small spot that is barely recognisable, they have a “traumatic experience to be with them for the rest of their lives”….. and you’re calling us oppressed?

Every heard of natural beauty people? Ever heard of keeping that natural beauty protected for your one love in life, i.e your husband? It seems not.

Sisters (and brothers?) this world is but a journey. Like a person going on a long journey, and resting in the shade of a tree. That shade is this dunya, just temporary. We shouldn’t let small small things of  “Oh, but I won’t look pretty,” “But people will stare at me,” “No-ones going to like me,”…. deter us from our straight path.

We need to keep our haya (modesty)  intact and we need to do our best to please Allah

Which is why I have chosen to start wearing the niqab.

Here are some of the styles that i thik suit women the best.

I really like the long ones that come from your head. They really suit tall sisters, making them look graceful and elegant. They also look really nice on other height, the way they drag and are so flowy. These types are great for both summer and winter.. You can wear as many layers as you want underneath it in the winter, since it will never become tight on you, and in the summer, you can just wear a simple t-shirt and trouser, and this will keep you nice and cool by having the air circulate around your body due to its flowyness (is that a word?)

Assalamualaikum.

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Do you have a boyfriend?


“EVERY week I meet two high school girls at a place in Jeddah where I attend classes. Most of their excited talk revolves around the ‘hottest’ guy in their school to the weekly sundry crushes they have. The girls are ever-inquisitive about how many boyfriends I have, and have even managed to peep at my phone’s contact book, stopping at every male contact to look askance at me and ask: ‘This must be your boyfriend, no?’

Sometimes, in social gatherings, the ‘are you married?’ or ‘are you engaged’ questions are replaced with ‘do you have a boyfriend?’

Call me old-fashioned or simply passion-proof, I admit I have never been fascinated by my schoolmates’, and later, college mates’, obsession with the B-word. Yes, Boyfriend. ‘Top Secrets’ are kept, classes are bunked, rumors are made and even fights are picked up because of the B-word.

Why are we girls so fixated over what can be best described as an illicit non-marital (similar to extra-marital) relationship?………………….”

An excellent article I think everyone should read.

Full article @ Girls Talk – Do you have a boyfriend?


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Virtues of Hijaab


1.An act of obedience.
The hijab is an act of obedience to Allah and to his prophet (pbuh), Allah says in the Qur’an: `It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His messenger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed in a plain error.(S33:36).
Allah also said: And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) and not to show off their adornment except what must (ordinarily) appear thereof, that they should draw their veils over their Juyubihinna.‘(S24:31).
Juyubihinna: The respected scholars from As-Salaf As-Saleh (righteous predecessors) differed whether the veil cover of the body must include the hands and face or not. Today, respected scholars say that the hands and face must be covered. Other respected scholars say it is preferable for women to cover their whole bodies.

2.The Hijab is IFFAH (Modesty).
Allah (subhana wa’atala) made the adherence to the hijab a manifestation for chastity and modesty. Allah says: ‘O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) over their bodies (when outdoors). That is most convenient that they should be known and not molested.’ (S33:59). In the above Ayaah there is an evidence that the recognition of the apparent beauty of the woman is harmful to her. When the cause of attraction ends, the restriction is removed. This is illustrated in the case of elderly women who may have lost every aspect of attraction. Allah (swt) made it permissible for them to lay aside their outer garments and expose their faces and hands reminding, however, that is still better for them to keep their modesty.

3.The hijab is Tahara (Purity) Allah (swt) had shown us the hikma (wisdom) behind the legislation of the hijab: `And when you ask them (the Prophet’s wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and their hearts.’ (S33:53).
The hijab makes for greater purity for the hearts of believing men and women because it screens against the desire of the heart. Without the hijab, the heart may or may not desire. That is why the heart is more pure when the sight is blocked (by hijab) and thus the prevention of fitna (evil actions is very much manifested. The hijab cuts off the ill thoughts and the greed of the sick hearts:
`Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy or evil desire for adultery, etc) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.’ (S33:32)

4.The hijab is a Shield
The prophet (pbuh) said: “Allah, Most High, is Heaven, is Ha’yeii (Bashful), Sit’teer (Shielder). He loves Haya’ (Bashfulness) and Sitr (Shielding; Covering).” The Prophet (pbuh) also said: “Any woman who takes off her clothes in other than her husband’s house (to show off for unlawful purposes), has broken Allah’s shield upon her. The hadith demonstrates that depending upon the kind of action committed there will be either reward (if good) or punishment (if bad).

5. The hijab is Taqwah (Righteousness)
Allah (swt) says in the Qur’an: `O children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover yourselves (screen your private parts, etc) and as an adornment. But the raiment of righteousness, that is better.'(S7:26). The widespread forms of dresses in the world today are mostly for show off and hardly taken as a cover and shield of the woman’s body. To the believing women, however the purpose is to safeguard their bodies and cover their private parts as a manifestation of the order of Allah. It is an act of Taqwah (righteousness).

6.The hijab is Eemaan (Belief or Faith)
Allah (swt) did not address His words about the hijab except to the believing women, Al-Mo’minat. In many cases in the Qur’an Allah refers to the “the believing women”. Aisha (RA), the wife of the prophet (pbuh), addressed some women from the tribe of Banu Tameem who came to visit her and had light clothes on them, they were improperly dressed: “If indeed you are believing women, then truly this is not the dress of the believing women, and if you are not believing women, then enjoy it.”

7. The hijab is Haya’ (Bashfulness)
There are two authentic hadith which state: “Each religion has a morality and the morality of Islam is haya'” AND “Bashfulness is from belief, and belief is in Al-Jannah (paradise)”. The hijab fits the natural bashfulness which is a part of the nature of women.

8.The hijab is Gheerah
The hijab fits the natural feeling of Gheerah, which is intrinsic in the straight man who does not like people to look at his wife or daughters. Gheerah is a driving emotion that drives the straight man to safeguard women who are related to him from strangers. The straight MUSLIM man has Gheerah for ALL MUSLIM women In response to lust and desire, men look (with desire) at other women while they do not mind that other men do the same to their wives or daughters. The mixing of sexes and absence of hijab destroys the Gheera in men. Islam considers Gheerah an integral part of faith. The dignity of the wife or daughter or any other Muslim woman must be highly respected and defended.

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Conversation about hijaab


Why do People neglect hijaab? Here is a fascinating Conversation………

Hijaab

 

“It’s not a big sin. Helping people and praying is more important.”
“True. But big things start with small things.”
“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.”

“What you wear is not important?”
“That’s what I said.

“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?”
“What do you mean?”

“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.”
“So?”

“So, your appearance IS important.”
“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.”

“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Holy Qur’an?”
“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Qur’an.”

You mean Allah tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?”
“Yes. Allah is forgiving.”

“Allah is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes.”
“Says who?”

“Says the same book that tells you to cover.”
“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.”
“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?! What’s your definition of freedom anyway?”
“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.”
“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do.”
“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people.”

“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point.”
“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.”

“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying Allah.”
“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!”

“So all these people with hijab never get married?!”
“Okay! Wha t if I get married and my husband doesn’t l i ke it? And wants me to remove it?”

“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!”
“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.”

“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?”
“But then who would hire me?”

“A company that respects people for who they are.”
“Not after 9-11”
“Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school? And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab.ummm.”
“Yasmeen?”

“Yes. Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.”
“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?”

“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heels and lipstick colors?”
“You didn’t answer my question.”

“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying Allah in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight pants.” ??
“That’s called ‘fashion’, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women.”

“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.”
“Yes. That’s what it is.”

“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?”
“Well, that’s different.”

“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab.she was a woman, right?”
“Right, but.”

“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!”
“Wait, let me finish, I was saying.”

“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?”
“Yes.”

“Specifically how?”
“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!”

“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be ‘attractive’?”
“Of course, it’s fashion.”

“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?”
Silence

“Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.”
“What do you mean?”

“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.”
“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.”
“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men.and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.”
“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?”

“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism .”
“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB! It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society …
Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!”

“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.”
“Fine.”

“Fine.”
Silence
“Keep quiet and I don’t want to hear more about hijab niqab blab!”
Silence.
She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time. Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society, rejected by the Faith:
Yes to curls or blowed dried hair, no to hijab

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Hijaab


33:53


يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَدْخُلُوا بُيُوتَ النَّبِيِّ إِلَّا أَن يُؤْذَنَ لَـكُمْ إِلَى طَعَامٍ غَيْرَ نَاظِرِينَ إِنَاهُ وَلَـكِنْ إِذَا دُعِيتُمْ فَادْخُلُوا فَإِذَا طَعِمْتُمْ فَانتَشِرُوا وَلَا مُسْتَأْنِسِينَ لِحَدِيثٍ إِنَّ ذَلِكُمْ كَانَ يُؤْذِي النَّبِيَّ فَيَسْتَحْيِي مِنكُمْ وَالله لَا يَسْتَحْيِي مِنَ الْـحَقِّ وَإِذَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعًا فَاسْأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُمْ أَطْهَرُ لِقُلُوبِكُمْ وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ وَمَا كَانَ لَـكُمْ أَن تُؤْذُوا رَسُولَ الله وَلَا أَن تَنكِحُوا أَزْوَاجَهُ مِن بَعْدِهِ أَبَدًا إِنَّ ذَلِكُمْ كَانَ عِندَ الله عَظِيمًا

“O you who believe! Enter not the Prophet’s houses, except when leave is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation. But when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse, without sitting for a talk. Verily, such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet, and he is shy of (asking) you (to go), but Allâh is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask for anything you want, ask them from behind a Hijāb, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not (right) for you that you should annoy Allâh’s Messenger, nor that you should ever marry his wives after him (his death). Verily! With Allâh that shall be an enormity. (Al-Ahzāb 33:53)

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Niqab, a gift from Allah.


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