Subhanallah, this two year old girl knows a lot more than we do, and she is only two! MashaAllah.
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This is a true story about a man named Rashed. He tells his story as follows…
I was not more than thirty years old when my wife gave birth to my first child. I still remember that night.
I had stayed out all night long with my friends, as was my habit. It was a night filled with useless talk, and worse, with backbiting, gossiping, and making fun of people. I was mostly the one who made people laugh; I would mock others and my friends would laugh and laugh. I remember on that night that I’d made them laugh a lot. I had an amazing ability to imitate others – I could change the sound of my voice until I sounded exactly like the person I was mocking. No one was safe from my biting mockery, even my friends; some people started avoiding me just to be safe from my tongue. I remember on that night, I had made fun of a blind man who I’d seen begging in the market. What was worse, I had put my foot out in front him – he tripped and fell, and started turning his head around, not knowing what to say.
I went back to my house, late as usual, and I found my wife waiting for me. She was in a terrible state, and said in a quivering voice, “Rashed… where were you?”
“Where would I be, on Mars?” I said sarcastically, “With my friends of course.”
She was visibly exhausted, and holding back tears, she said, “Rashed, I’m so tired. It seems the baby is going to come soon.” A silent tear fell on her cheek.
I felt that I had neglected my wife. I should have taken care of her and not stayed out so much all those nights… especially since she was in her ninth month. I quickly took her to the hospital; she went into the delivery room, and suffered through long hours of pain.
I waited patiently for her to give birth… but her delivery was difficult, and I waited a long time until I got tired. So I went home and left my phone number with the hospital so they could call with the good news. An hour later, they called me to congratulate me on the birth of Salem. I went to the hospital immediately. As soon as they saw me, they asked me to go see the doctor who had overlooked my wife’s delivery.
“What doctor?” I cried out, “I just want to see my son Salem!”
“First go see the doctor,” they said.
I went to the doctor, and she started talking to me about trials, and about being satisfied with Allah’s decree. Then she said, “Your son has a serious deformity in his eyes, and it seems that he has no vision.” I lowered my head while I fought back tears… I remembered that blind man begging in the market who I’d tripped and made others laugh at.
Subhan Allah, you get what you give! I stayed brooding quietly for a while… I didn’t know what to say. Then I remembered by wife and son. I thanked the doctor for her kindness, and went to go see my wife. My wife wasn’t sad. She believed in the decree of Allah… she was content… How often had she advised me to stop mocking people! “Don’t backbite people,” she always used to repeat… We left the hospital, and Salem came with us.
In reality, I didn’t pay much attention to him. I pretended that he wasn’t in the house with us. When he started crying loudly, I’d escape to the living room to sleep there. My wife took good care of him, and loved him a lot. As for myself, I didn’t hate him, but I couldn’t love him either.
Salem grew. He started to crawl, and had a strange way of crawling. When he was almost one year old, he started trying to walk, and we discovered that he was crippled. I felt like he was an even greater burden on me. After him, my wife gave birth to Umar and Khaled. The years passed, and Salem grew, and his brothers grew. I never liked to sit at home, I was always out with my friends… in reality, I was like a plaything at their disposal [entertaining them whenever they wanted].
My wife never gave up on my reform. She always made du’aa for my guidance. She never got angry with my reckless behavior, but she would get really sad if she saw me neglecting Salem and paying attention to the rest of his brothers. Salem grew, and my worries grew with him. I didn’t mind when my wife asked to enroll him in a special school for the handicapped.
I didn’t really feel the passing of the years. My days were all the same. Work and sleep and food and staying out with friends. One Friday, I woke up at 11 am. This was early for me. I was invited to a gathering, so I got dressed and perfumed, and was about to go out. I passed by our living room, and was startled by the sight of Salem – he was sobbing! This was the first time I had noticed Salem crying since he was a baby. Ten years had passed, and I hadn’t paid attention to him. I tried to ignore him now, but I couldn’t take it… I heard him calling out to his mother while I was in the room. I turned towards him, and went closer. “Salem! Why are you crying?” I asked.
When he heard my voice, he stopped crying. Then when he realized how close I was, he started feeling around him with his small hands. What was wrong with him? I discovered that he was trying to move away from me! It was as if he was saying, “Now, you’ve decided to notice me? Where have you been for the last ten years?” I followed him… he had gone into his room. At first, he refused to tell me why he’d been crying. I tried to be gentle with him… Salem started to tell me why he’d been crying, while I listened and trembled.
Do you know what the reason was?! His brother Umar, the one who used to take him to the masjid, was late. And because it was Jumu’ah prayer, Salem was afraid he wouldn’t find a place in the first row. He called out to Umar… and he called out to his mother… but nobody answered, so he cried. I sat there looking at the tears flowing from his blind eyes. I couldn’t bear the rest of his words. I put my hand over his mouth and said, “Is this why you were crying, Salem!”
“Yes,” he said.
I forgot about my friends, I forgot about the gathering, and I said, “Don’t be sad, Salem. Do you know who’s going to take you to the masjid today?”
“Umar, of course,” he said, “… but he’s always late.”
“No,” I said, “I’m going to take you.”
Salem was shocked… he couldn’t believe it. He thought I was mocking him. His tears came and he started crying. I wiped his tears with my hand and then took hold of his hand. I wanted to take him to the masjid by car. He refused and said, “The masjid is near… I want to walk there.” Yes, by Allah, he said this to me.
I couldn’t remember when was the last time I had entered the masjid , but it was the first time I felt fear and regret for what I’d neglected in the long years that had passed. The masjid was filled with worshippers, but I still found a place for Salem in the first row. We listened to the Jumu’ah khutbah together, and he prayed next to me. But really, I was the one praying next to him.
After the prayer, Salem asked me for a Quraan. I was surprised! How was he going to read when he was blind? I almost ignored his request, but I decided to humor him out of fear of hurting his feelings. I passed him a Quraan. He asked me to open the Quraan to Surat al-Kahf. I started flipping through the pages and looking through the index until I found it. He took the Quraan from me, put it in front of him, and started reading the Surah… with his eyes closed… Ya Allah! He had the whole Surah memorized.
I was ashamed of myself. I picked up a Quraan… I felt my limbs tremble… I read and I read. I asked Allah to forgive me and to guide me. I couldn’t take it… I started crying like a child. There were still some people in the masjid praying sunnah… I was embarrassed by their presence, so I tried to hold my tears. My crying turned into whimpering and long, sobbing breaths. The only thing I felt was a small hand reaching out to my face, and then wiping the tears away. It was Salem! I pulled him to my chest… I looked at him. I said to myself… you’re not the blind one, but I am, for having drifted after immoral people who were pulling me to hellfire. We went back home. My wife was extremely worried about Salem, but her worry turned into tears [of joy] when she found out I had prayed Jumu’ah with Salem.
From that day on, I never missed the congregational prayer in the masjid. I left my bad friends… and I made righteous friends among people I met at the masjid. I tasted the sweetness of Iman with them. I learned things from them that distracted me from this world. I never missed out on gatherings of remembrance [halaqas], or on the witr prayer. I recited the entire Qur’an, several times, in one month. I moistened my tongue with the remembrance of Allah, that He might forgive my backbiting and mocking of the people. I felt closer to my family. The looks of fear and pity that had occupied my wife’s eyes disappeared. A smile now never parted from the face of my son Salem. Anyone who saw him would have felt that he owned the world and everything in it. I praised and thanked Allah a lot for His blessings.
One day, my righteous friends decided to go to a far away location for da’wah. I hesitated about going. I prayed istikharah, and consulted with my wife. I thought she would refuse… but the opposite happened! She was extremely happy, and even encouraged me… because in the past, she had seen me traveling without consulting her, for the purpose of sin and evil. I went to Salem, and told him I would be traveling. With tears, he wrapped me up in his small arms…
I was away from home for three and a half months. In that period, whenever I got a chance, I called my wife and talked to my children. I missed them so much… and oh, how I missed Salem! I wanted to hear his voice… he was the only one who hadn’t talked to me since I’d traveled. He was either at school or at the masjid whenever I called them.Whenever I would tell my wife how much I missed him, she would laugh happily, joyfully, except for the last time I called her. I didn’t hear her expected laugh. Her voice changed. I said to her, “Give my salam to Salem,” and she said, “Insha’Allah,” and was quiet.
At last, I went back home. I knocked on the door. I hoped that it was Salem who would open up for me, but was surprised to find my son Khaled, who was not more than four years old. I picked him up in my arms while he squealed, “Baba! Baba!” I don’t know why my heart tensed when I entered the house.
I sought refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaytan… I approached my wife… her face was different. As if she was pretending to be happy. I inspected her closely then said, “What’s wrong with you?” “Nothing,” she said. Suddenly, I remembered Salem. “Where’s Salem?” I asked. She lowered her head. She didn’t answer. Hot tears fell on her cheeks.
“Salem! Where’s Salem?” I cried out.
At that moment, I only heard the sound of my son Khaled talking in his own way, saying, “Baba… Thalem went to pawadise… with Allah…”
My wife couldn’t take it. She broke down crying. She almost fell to the floor, and left the room. Later, I found out that Salem had contracted a fever two weeks before I’d returned, so my wife took him to the hospital… the fever got more and more severe, and didn’t leave him… until his soul left his body…
And if this earth closes in on you in spite of its vastness, and your soul closes is on you because of what it’s carrying… call out, “Oh Allah!” If solutions run out, and paths are constricted, and ropes are cut off, and your hopes are no more… call out, “Oh Allah.” Allah wished to guide Salem’s father on the hands of Salem, before Salem’s death. How merciful is Allah!
“Remember death in your prayer, for the man who remembers death during his prayer is bound to pray properly, and pray the prayer of a man who does not think he will pray any other prayer.”1
“When you stand up to pray, pray as a farewell prayer.”2
Meaning that the prayer of one who thinks that he will not pray another prayer i.e., the person praying will no doubt die, and there is some prayer that will be his last prayer, so let him have khushoo (concentration) in the prayer that he is doing, for he does not know whether or not his will be his last prayer.
1 Silsilat alhadeeth as-Saheehah by Shaykh al-Albani, hadith number 1421. It is reported from as-Suyooti that al-Hafidh ibn Hajarclassed this hadith as hasan.
2 Ahmad, 5/412; Saheeh al-Jami, hadith number 742
From the book “33 ways of developing Khushoo” By Muhammd Salih Al-Munajjid.
Ya Allah, if you were to take me in my salat,
Take me as a believer
I pray that the angel of death is half as beautiful as half of the beauty
Created by my Creator;
Take me yesterday if it means I’ll get there sooner
The warm wet water dropping from my wudhu’
I beat the sun this morning in order to stand before You
But don’t need to thank me, Your Prayers are long overdue
All I ask is for my intentions to be clear and true
The Ka’bah in line with my nose
Hellfire under my toes
If this is it, please make these life’s prayers legit
Cos I am nothing but a servant
Please Master give me guidance
Bring me closer to Your Deen
Far away from Shayteen
Only five times a day
I wish I could pray infinite
For all you could have given me
For all that you have taken away
There is no excuse from me to say,
I state the obvious
Body in perfect condition
As I stand in front of my Lord trying to prove my dedication
Walking the thin line between hope and fear
Words coming out crystal clear
As though Judgement were hear
The humility combats the lives
I told them that I used to do
When I am closest to Truth
A vessel of submission
His recognition is my Quest
Hands folded at both palms
Gaze is lowered upon the spot at which my head would rise
When the warm wet water still covers my eyes
I cherish the Dunia (World) like I cherish sunny weather,
Wonderful at times but doesn’t lasts forever, so
Ya Allah if you should take me in my solat,
Please have my last words be the last words of AlFatihah
Right before ‘La ilaha illallah, Ash hadu anna muhammadarrasuullullah’
For you my God, I will hold and cherish this faith for this is a test
And we always do worst in the subjects that we hate
I am still ashamed
Of my heart used to contain
You, you sent me blessings again and again
Your Mercy uses words that I simply can’t explain
The Honour that I feel and the love that I maintain
Forehead, nose, knees and toes
All pressed before the Lord
Before I rose
To make a prayer of my own
Ya Allah forgive me for my sins
As though they were not my own
Help me to pray as though I was saying my final goodbye
As my bouncing finger lets me know that I am still alive
I swear to God
I do not feel comfortable swearing to God
Because I’m not sure if my faulty words would even do Him justice
Soon and every day, I send peace and blessing upon His Prophets
Empty my mind like banks empty my pockets
Only His interests are in my best interest
Were my prayers answered only one knows best
I’ll try it again soon, inshaAllah
The rest are in the Hands of Allah subhanahu wata’ala
Narrated AbuSa’id (al-Khudri): The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said:
If any Muslim clothes a Muslim when he is naked, Allah will clothe him with some green garments of paradise; if any Muslim feeds a Muslim when he is hungry, Allah will feed him with some of the fruits of paradise; and if any Muslim gives a Muslim drink when he is thirsty, Allah will give him some of the pure wine which is sealed to drink.
Narrated AbuUmamah: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said:
I guarantee a house in the surroundings of paradise for a man who avoids quarrelling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of paradise for a man who made his character good.
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that when
the son of Adam recites the Ayat of Sajdah (prostration) and then falls down in prostration, the Satan goes into seclusion and weeps and says: Alas, and in the narration of Abu Kuraib the words are: Woe unto me, the son of Adam was commanded to prostrate, and he prostrated and Paradise was entitled to him and I was commanded to prostrate, but I refused and am doomed to hell.
by Abû Bakr Jâbir al-Jaza’iry
A Muslim considers his food and drink means to something else. They are not a goal and pleasure in themselves. He eats and drinks in order to keep his body healthy so that he may worship Allah the Almighty. This is the worship that will make him qualified for the honor of the life and happiness of the Hereafter. He does not eat and drink for the sake of eating and drinking and its desires. Therefore, if he is not hungry, he does not eat. If he is not thirsty, he does not drink. It is narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:
“We are a people who do not eat until we are hungry. And if we eat, we do not eat to our fill.”
Thereby, a Muslim must adhere to the manners of eating and drinking that the Shari’ah has issued. These include:
Etiquette Before Eating
1. A Muslim should try to make his food and drink pure by preparing them from the permissible, pure sources that are free of any taint of the forbidden or doubtful. Allah the Almighty said:
“0 you who believe! Eat of the lawful pure things that We have provided you. (Qur’an 2:172)
The pure things are the lawful things that are free from any filth or being noxious.
2. The intention for eating should be to strengthen oneself for the purpose of worshipping Allah and to be rewarded for one’s eating and drinking. The permissible act then becomes an act of worship that is rewarded by Allah due to the good intention.
3. One should wash his hands before eating if they are not clean or if he is not sure that they are clean.
4. The food should be placed on a spread on the floor and not on a table. This makes the act more modest. Anas said:
“Allahs messenger (SAW) did not eat upon a table or from a platter. ( Al-Bukhari)
5. One should sit to eat in a modest fashion. He should rest on his knees and sit with the top of his feet on the ground (and his body resting on the bottom of his feet). Or he should put his right leg erect and sit upon his left leg, as in the manner that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) would sit. Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:
“I do not eat while reclining. Instead, I am a servant, so I eat like a servant eats and I sit like a servant sits. (Al-Bukhari)
6. He should be satisfied by the food that is presented in front of him and he should not find fault with it. If he likes it, he should eat it. If he does not like it, he should leave it. This is based on the statement of Abu Hurayrah:
“Allah’s Messenger (SAW)| never found fault with any food. If he desired it, he would eat it. If he disliked it, he would leave it.” (Al-Bukhari)
7. One should eat along with others, either a guest, family member, son or daughter or servant. This is based on this Hadith:
“Eat your food together, for you will thereby be blessed in it.” (Abu Dawud and At-Tirmithi who said it is Sahih)
Etiquette While Eating
1. The person should begin his eating by saying: Bismillaah “In the Name of Allah.” Allah’s Messenger (SAW) stated:
“If any of you is about to eat, he should mention the Name of Allah. If he forgets to mention the Name of Allah at the beginning, he should say, ‘In the Name of Allah over the beginning and the ending.’” (Abu Dawud)
2. He should end his meal with the praises of Allah, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) also said:
“If a person eats any food and then says, ‘Praise is to Allah who fed me this and provided for me without any strength or power on my part,’ all of his previous sins will be forgiven.” (At-Tirmithi)
3. The person should eat with three fingers of his right hand. He should take small portions and chew them well. He should eat the food that is close to him and not take from the middle of the plate. Allah’s Messenger (SAW) told nar bin Salamah:
“O young man, mention the Name of Allah, eat with your right hand and eat from what is close to you. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Allah’s Messenger (SAW) also said:
“The blessings descend from the middle of the food. So eat from the edges and do not eat from the middled “(At-Tirmithi)
4. A Muslim should chew his food well and he should lick plate before he wipes it with a napkin or washes it with water. This is based on the Prophet’s statement:
“When one of you eats, he should not wipe his fingers until he licks them or has them licked.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Jabir stated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) ordered the fingers and plates be licked clean. He also said:
“You do not know in which part of your food lies its blessing.” (Muslim)
5. If a person drops some food, he should remove the dirt from it and eat it. Allah’s Messenger (SAW) stated:
“If a morsel of food falls from any of you, he should take it and wipe it clean of any dirt and then eat it. He should not leave it for the Shaytan.” (Muslim)
6. A Muslim should not blow over hot food; instead, he should wait until it cools down. He also should not blow into a glass of water while drinking from it. Instead, he should breathe three times outside of the vessel. Anas narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW), would breathe three times while drinking. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Abu Sa’id narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) forbade blowing into a drink. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Ibn ‘Abbas narrated that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) forbade breathing into a drinking vessel or blowing into it. (At-Tirmithi)
7. A Muslim should avoid eating to his fill or overeating. Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:
“A human does not fill any container worse than his stomach. It is enough for a human to have some morsels to strengthen his back (keep his back straight). If he must eat more, then it should be one-third of his stomach for food, one-third for drink and one-third for breathing.” (Ahmad)
8. Food and drink should be served first to the eldest in the gathering. Then it should go to those on the right. Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:
“(Begin with) the eldest, the eldest.”
That is, one should begin with the eldest at the gathering. However, the Prophet (SAW) asked permission of Ibn ‘Abbas to pass a drink to the older people who were on his left. Ibn ‘Abbas was on his right and the older people were on the Prophet’s left. The fact that he asked permission of Ibn ‘Abbas shows that the one on the right should be given first. Indeed, in another Hadith, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said:
“Begin with) those on the right, and those on the further right. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Allah’s Messenger (SAW) also said:
“The one who gives drink to the people should be the last of them,” (Ahmad) that is, the last of them to drink .
9. One should not begin to take food or drink if there is someone else present who should go before him, such as an older person or a virtuous person. This is considered impolite behavior. The person may then be thought of as greedy. A poet once said,
“If the hands are stretched to the food, I will not be the quickest among them, as the greediest of the people is the quickest among them.”
10. He should not burden his friend or companion by making them tell him, “Eat.” Instead, he should eat what he needs to eat without shyness or trying to be shy. In that case, he troubles his companion or guest and it may also be a type of acting for show, which is forbidden.
11. He should be compassionate with his eating companion. He should not try to eat more than him. This is especially true if there is not much food. In that case, he may be eating the food that someone else has a right to.
12. He should not look at his companions while he is eating. He should not watch them, such that they may become shy because of him. Instead, he should lower his gaze to the food that is around him. He should not look at them as this might harm them and may make them mad, in which case he would be sinful.
13. He should not do anything that the others generally consider gross behavior. He should not shake his hand off over the plate. He also should not put his head close to the food such that if something falls from his mouth, it will land in the people’s food. Similarly, if he bit off a part of his bread, he should not put the rest of that bread back into the food. He also should not discuss disgusting things while eating. In that way, he might harm one of his companions and it is forbidden to harm a Muslim.
14. When he eats with poor people, he should give them preference over himself. When he eats with his brethren and friends, there should be friendliness and happiness. When he eats with people of rank and respect, he should eat with the proper manners and respect.
Etiquette After Eating
1. One should stop eating before he becomes full, thereby following the example of Allah’s Messenger (SAW). This will keep him from suffering debilitating indigestion and gluttony that takes away one’s intelligent thinking.
2. One should lick his hand and then wipe it or wash it. It is best and preferred to wash it.
3. He should pick up whatever has fallen from his food while eating, as he has been exhorted to do. This is a way of expressing gratitude for his bounties
4. He should floss between his teeth and rinse his mouth in order to clean his mouth. This is because he uses his mouth to remember Allah the Almighty and talk to his brothers. Furthermore, cleaning the mouth will keep the teeth healthy.
5. He must praise Allah after eating or drinking. If he drank milk, he should say:
“O Allah, bless us in what You have provided for us and increase it for us. “(Abu Dawud)
If he breaks his fast at a people’s place, he should say:
“May the fasting break their fast with you, may the pious eat your food and may the angels invoke blessings for you.” (Abu Dawud)
Extracted from “Mihaj ul Muslim” Published by Dar us Salam